I had no idea where I was. I was driving
to a meeting as part of my work in an internship in an Anglican church in the Middle East – in Qatar, to be exact. When
I left the house, I had a rough idea of where I was going. I had a street
address, which was useless, because there were no street signs. Eventually, I
realized I was utterly lost and had no idea how to get anywhere – my
supervising priest’s house, my in-laws’ house, the people I was visiting. I
parked the car and just sat there, fuming at my own incompetence. Someone
spotted me sitting there. A Qatari, given his sparkling white thobe and dashing
headscarf. He said, in Oxonian English, “you look lost.”
I had heard a few stories about
non-Qatari women being harassed, so I was on my guard. “I’ve gotten turned
around somewhere. I’m trying to get to XYZ Street [I’ll use that because the real street name is too hard to remember
even now] and I must have missed a turn. Do you know which way I should
go?”
I hoped he would be kind and give me
some directions. The usual Qatari directions are something like this – you go to the Pearl roundabout and get off
where the turnoff to Al Jazeera is, then you go for another couple minutes and
you’ll see the white house on the right. Turn there.
This presumes you know where you are
in relation to the traffic circle that has a statue of a gigantic pearl in the
middle, that you know which turnoff leads to Al Jazeera, and that you know
which of the three hundred white houses is the correct one. Directions are not
a strong suit.
Instead, he said “It’s too difficult
to explain. Follow me.”
And he hopped into his Mercedes –
all autos in Qatar are Mercedes or BMWs or Ferraris, it seems – and he revved
it up.
I was more than a little nervous.
Should I follow him? Would he lead me to someplace where he would sell me to
the highest bidder? Would he hold me for ransom (a foolish guess, since he was
probably richer than all my extended family combined)? I decided to take the
risk and follow him. That worked pretty well for a while. I started to
recognize a few landmarks, which helped my anxiety. Then we got separated at
one of the infernal roundabouts, and I lost him. I pulled over, trying to guess
which direction I should go next. In a minute, he once again pulled up next to
me and rolled down his window. “Damned Pakistani traffic police at the
roundabout! Sorry I lost you. Not to worry – we are almost there.”
And two minutes later, he had led me
to the address I was searching for. I leaned out of the car window into the
desert heat. “Thank you so much! You were so very kind!”
He said, “When I first went to
university in Oxford I was always getting lost, and I hated the feeling. I
don’t want you to feel that way about Qatar.”
And off he drove.
It’s a funny thing about being a
stranger in a strange land. You feel like a creature from another universe, and
it’s rare that someone treats you like another human being. But this Qatari,
who probably had other things to do, took the time to shepherd me to my
destination, all because he didn’t want me to feel like a creature from another
universe in his country.
It was for me the lived experience
of what Jesus was talking about when he answered the lawyer’s question “who is
my neighbor?”
The Qatari gentleman decided I was
his neighbor, despite the fact that I was a woman, despite the fact that I was
not Qatari, despite the fact that I wore no headscarf and thus was not Muslim.
Because he thought I was his neighbor, he helped me.
He thought I was his neighbor, and neighbors
do things for each other. My neighbor Roland, who comes from Australia,
regularly shows up at our door with food from his garden, or to help Doug with
some project or another. Our other neighbor, Ed, is a part of what might be
called the Tree Circus of Hawthorne Avenue. Roland, Doug and Ed regularly do
tree pruning at our houses and at other neighbors’ houses. They do it because
neighbors help each other out.
Neighborly help is rarely as
dramatic as the story of the Good Samaritan in today’s Gospel. It’s usually
more like Roland and Doug and Ed, helping each other and other neighbors when a
need arises.
But occasionally there is a story of
neighborliness that breaks all our conventions of “who is my neighbor?”
A few months ago, there was a
horrific event. Bombs were detonated in Boston, near the finish line of the
Boston Marathon. Some people died, many people were cruelly maimed. The alleged
perpetrators of the attack were two young men who had become swayed by radical
religious teaching and believed they should wreak vengeance on Americans. One
of the alleged perpetrators died in a shootout with police during the manhunt.
His body was autopsied and it was
sent to a funeral home. The director of the funeral home tried to find a place
to bury the body of this man, and could not. Every cemetery in New England and
the Tri-State area refused him.
Enter Martha Mullen, a middle aged
Methodist woman who lives in Doswell, just up the road from us. She heard about
the fact that a burial place could not be found, and she thought that wasn’t
right. Even people who did evil things deserved to be treated with some modicum
of dignity.
"My first thought was Jesus said love
your enemies," she said.
Then she had an epiphany. "I thought
someone ought to do something about this - and I am someone," Mullen said.
So Mullen sent emails to various faith
organizations to see what could be done. She heard back from Islamic Funeral
Services of Virginia, which arranged for a funeral plot at the Al-Barzakh
cemetery in Caroline County. "It was an interfaith effort," she said.
She went on to say “Nobody
is without sin. Certainly this was a horrific act, but he's dead and what
happened is between him and God. We just need to bury his body and move
forward. People were making an issue and detracting from the healing that
needed to take place."
When Martha Mullen
thought of Tamerlan Tsarnaev, she didn’t think of him as a good man. She didn’t
think of him as someone she would sit and have a cup of coffee with. She
thought of him as enemy. And yet she also thought of him as neighbor.
And that’s the point that
Jesus was making when the lawyer posed the question “who is my neighbor?”
The parable of the Good
Samaritan is not a warm and fuzzy story. Samaritans and Israelites were sworn
enemies. Each thought the other was religiously heretical. The idea of a good
person from Samaria helping a wounded Jew was just as outlandish as a good
Methodist
helping a murderous radicalized Chechen Muslim.
helping a murderous radicalized Chechen Muslim.
It would have been the
sort of thing that would get the radio talk show hosts in Samaria going wild,
saying that this was a betrayal of all that was good and true, caring for this
evil Jew, just as in our time Martha Mullen was reviled for her actions.
Who is your neighbor?
Yes, your neighbor is the
great friend down the street who brings you Swiss chard from his garden and
eggs from his hens and helps you cut down a tree limb. But your neighbor is
also the odd man who mutters to himself as he puts up signs on his lawn saying
“if your dog fouls my lawn it will be shot,” or the woman with the headscarf
who doesn’t talk to you when you say hello. Your neighbor is the black teen who
wanders through your neighborhood at night with a bag of Skittles and a bottle
of Gatorade in hand. Your neighbor is the neighborhood watch chief, who seems a
little overzealous to you. Your neighbor is the loud and bossy lady who
complains about your lawn not being mowed enough, and the guy on the street
corner who holds up a sign saying “Lost everything but life. Please give.”
Your neighbor is not just
the person you find easy to like, it is the person you find hard to like. Like
a religious radical who is your sworn enemy. Like a Jew. Like a Samaritan. Like
a Muslim. Like a stranger. Like an alien…
Jesus gives us an
uncomfortable definition of who your neighbor is. You can choose to stick with
the easy definition – someone who is just like me – or you can take the harder
road – someone who doesn’t seem to be like me. You just might discover that you
have more in common with that uncomfortable stranger than you realize…more in
common than you care to admit.
Because at one point or
another, we are all strangers in a strange place, whether it’s Qatar or Samaria
or Jackson Ward. Wouldn’t you prefer that those who live there consider you a
neighbor rather than the enemy? Might you not change the world just a little,
if you yourself look at the strangers where you live as your neighbors?
Amen.
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